Speaker: Peter Mockett 

Series: Building Better Marriages (Relationships)

Duration: 31 minutes

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Building Better Marriages (1)

Conflict without Combat

Conflict without Combat

Proverbs 11:29 (LB)
The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing left

• 3 Phases of Arguments
  
• 1. Recognition
• 2. Reaction
• 3. Resolution
  

How to Diffuse Anger

1. Admit Your Anger

Ephesians 4:25-26
each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to each other… “In your anger do not sin”

Don’t sin by nursing a grudge (LB)


2. Understand Your Anger

Proverbs 19:11
A man’s wisdom gives him patience;

Root causes of anger
I feel unaccepted, unappreciated, unsupported, uncertain…

3. Deal with your anger immediately

Ephesians 4:26-27
“In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

Job 18:4 (GN)
You are only hurting yourself with your anger

4. Control Your Anger

Proverbs 29:11
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

James 1:19
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Be Brief
Be Specific
Be Humble

Controlling Your Anger

Ephesians 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Do not use harmful words in talking. Use only helpful words, the kind that build up
The Battle of the Seven “C’s”

• 1. Never Compare
• 2. Never Condemn
• 3. Never Command
• 4. Never Challenge
• 5. Never Condescend
• 6. Never Contradict
• 7. Never Confuse